Is This Space For You?
You’ve always been the strong one.
The thoughtful one.
The one who holds space for everyone else—even when no one’s holding it for you.
You’re an empath with a deep, tender heart.
You feel things most people miss. You notice what’s unspoken. You sense the energy in the room and shape-shift to make others comfortable—because it’s what you’ve always done.
You’ve been the peacekeeper. The helper. The one who always knows what to say to make someone feel better.
But when it comes to your own pain… you’ve often been met with silence, invalidation, or worse—manipulation disguised as love.
You’ve survived narcissistic abuse—maybe from a parent, a partner, or both.
You’ve been gaslit, blamed, love-bombed, and discarded.
You’ve walked on eggshells so long your feet are bruised.
And somewhere along the way… you stopped trusting yourself.
You ask yourself things like:
“Why do I keep ending up feeling unwanted?”
“Is it me? Am I the problem?”
“Why does it feel so hard to just… be me?”
You feel like you’re too much and not enough—all at once.
You’ve been conditioned to give, perform, and prove your worth until there’s nothing left.
And still, you find yourself overlooked. Undervalued. Taken advantage of.
Maybe you use humor to cope.
Maybe you numb with wine, weed, or staying busy.
Maybe you grew up in a high-control religious or authoritarian household that taught you self-denial was holy and obedience was love.
Maybe you feel like a grown woman still carrying the ache of a little girl who never felt truly safe.
And yet…
You are so resilient.
You’ve kept going. You’ve kept loving. You’ve kept showing up for everyone else—even when your own cup has been bone dry.
But now?
Now you’re tired.
You’re ready to stop pretending.
You’re ready to stop people-pleasing, over-functioning, and abandoning yourself for the sake of peace that never really lasts.
You’re ready to feel again—not just perform your way through life.
You’re not looking for surface-level self-help.
You’re looking for something deeper.
You want to understand your nervous system, your patterns, your truth.
You want to finally feel safe in your own body, your own emotions, your own energy.
You want to reclaim the parts of you that were silenced, shamed, or stolen.
You might not feel brave yet.
But you're curious.
You’re craving something more honest. More embodied. More real.
If any of this hits you in the chest like a truth you’ve been trying not to say out loud—
Then you’re in the right place.
And I’m so glad you found your way here.
Welcome back to yourself.
🤎 Ashana
If you need more time…